Welcome to 3-2-1 Tuesdays with Better Wellness Naturally- Redefining Relationships for Growth
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- Jun 9
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Updated: Dec 9
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3: Keys
2: Concepts
1: Quick Article
"Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong." – Mandy Hale
3 Keys
Recognizing Growth and Change: Personal growth doesn’t always align with the people we’ve been close to, and that’s okay. And, as we evolve, we may realize that some relationships no longer fit who we’re becoming. This doesn’t mean those connections were a mistake—they likely served a purpose in a different chapter of our lives. Growth involves letting go of the guilt for outgrowing someone and appreciating the role they played in your journey.
Relationships as Two-Way Streets: A healthy relationship is mutual. It’s about giving and receiving respect, love, and support. When the dynamic feels one-sided, or someone’s presence consistently drains rather than uplifts you, it’s worth re-evaluating the relationship. Reaffirming boundaries or stepping back can create space for connections that are more aligned with your present self.
Love is a Verb: Love isn’t static—it’s what we do, say, and show. Whether it’s reaching out to an old friend, forgiving a past hurt, or showing up for someone even when life gets busy, love is defined by actions, not just words. By consciously redefining love as an ongoing effort, we make room for relationships that are rooted in growth and mutual care.
A Couple of Concepts
The Science of Relationship Growth: Relationships thrive when there’s room for change and adaptation. Research highlights that a growth mindset—the belief that people and relationships can evolve—leads to stronger, more flexible bonds. When both individuals are open to growth, they’re more likely to navigate challenges together and build trust. Conversely, fixed expectations can cause tension when life’s inevitable changes arise.
Letting Go Isn’t Easy, But It’s Healthy: Outgrowing relationships is natural, but it’s often accompanied by feelings of guilt or loss. Psychologists emphasize that prioritizing emotional health can mean stepping away from relationships that are no longer in alignment with our values. Toxic relationships, or even ones that feel stagnant, can impede personal growth and contribute to stress.
A Quick Overview
Redefining relationships is one of the hardest yet most freeing parts of personal growth. Think about it this way: as you evolve, your values, goals, and emotional needs shift. While some relationships adapt and grow with you, others may not. This doesn’t make those relationships bad or those people less valuable—it simply means that your paths are no longer aligned. As noted at Better Wellness, “As you do your work, those around you will step up or step out.”
Science backs this process. Studies show that a growth-oriented mindset fosters healthier connections and equips you to embrace change positively. It’s also essential to prioritize mental health; holding onto relationships that no longer serve your well-being can create stress and limit your ability to thrive. By stepping away from these dynamics, you open space for connections that reflect your current self—relationships rooted in mutual respect, shared growth, and deeper understanding.
Letting go isn’t about cutting ties dramatically or burning bridges—it’s about making choices that honor your journey. Sometimes, this means stepping back while still holding appreciation for the role someone played in your life. And in doing so, you create a foundation for authentic, fulfilling relationships in the present and future.
References:
Knee, C. R., Patrick, H., Vietor, N. A., & Neighbors, C. (2001). Implicit Theories of Relationships: Moderators of the Link Between Conflict and Commitment. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 80(5), 772–782.
Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.
Psychology Today. Mindset and Relationships. Retrieved from Psychology Today.
American Psychological Association. The Role of Relationships in Personal Growth. Retrieved from APA.
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